What matters is talking to my Dad today.
Twice.
What matters is the bad news that my StepMom's Uncle passed away, and that she has to fly up North to his funeral.
What matters is that subsequent to a very tumultous evolution, from a pre-teen resentment of this fine lady, that I can freely say how much I love her.
And how much I appreciate how she's repeatedly saved my Dad's life. Literally. Over, and over again, she's stood between him and the reaper, and has kept him on this planet through her will and her love.
Heart attacks, bypasses and complications to the edge of the grave, she has never given up. Never.
If for nothing but this alone, I shall love her, always.
And through all of this, fighting illnesses and unimaginable agonies of her own.
Through her own horrible, terrible and debilitating pain; yet still, she was always there.
When being there, very literally, was the margin of life or death to my Dad.
She. Was. There!
Moreover, she has always loved my brother and I. He, the elder one of the wayward life, the drugs; the prison. The daughter he's not seen in over twenty years. The grandaughter he's never seen. And his new, young daughter, to whom he now gives his days.
My StepMom has been loyal, loving, and faithful through it all.
She has loved my brother and I.
Even when we disdained her. In spite of our spite. In spite of our stupidity and ignorance.
And our arrogance.
She has loved both my first wife, and my second. And mourned their passages from my life, perhaps even more than I.
She has loved us, and does, still.
I won't narrate the endless details of over thirty years of her unwavering love.
Nor, am I deserving to do so.
This past Christmas, she did me the honor of taking me to her local, favorite shooting range.
She, who quietly hated all my past visits to her home, while armed.
And by God, she shot the eyes out of that target!
Do not piss off my seventy-five year old StepMom.
Do. Not.
What matters, is, by God!, that this woman has taught me the meaning of integrity, of loyalty, of undying love and fealty.
What matters, and what saddens me, is that I may have learned some of these lessons far too late in life.
What matters, is that even now, sadly, I may be paying the price for those lessons learned, too late.
What matters, is that I've learned them at all.
Godspeed, Dodie.
Fly swiftly, return home safely.
Love.
Your Son,
Jim